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The Aggressive Style of Communication | Assertiveness Basics

 

  • Main Style of Communication. The person considers their own rights, desires, and needs to be more important than the rights, desires, and needs of others.

MAIN BELIEFS AND THOUGHTS

  • They consider themselves superior to other people, more worthy and more skillful.
  • Other people are less important than they are.
  • They feel in control of their own lives, but also try to control the lives of others.
  • Rather leaders than followers, but not necessarily good leaders.

COMMUNICATION

  • They openly express their opinions, desires, and needs, but disregard or try to overwhelm those of others.
  • They offer feedback, often negative or unjustified.
  • They are usually the ones who initiate conflict, especially when the other person does not agree with them or refuses to follow their plans.
  • They speak loudly, usually covering up the voices of others.
  • They threaten, bully, humiliate and blame others for their own mistakes or failures.
  • The visual contact is direct but rather confrontational.

GOAL ACHIEVEMENT

  • Predominantly Aggressive people are exclusively interested in the achievement of their own goals and they would do anything to bring about the results that benefit them the most, with no consideration for how those contexts might affect others.
  • They usually convince others to help them fulfill their goals.

EMOTIONS

  • They experience some positive emotions linked to their roles of power and control, but the negative emotions are predominant and rather intense.
  • Fear, especially linked to losing control and their social positions.
  • They project dominance, but many times they feel helpless, abused, and consider that others require unreasonable things from them.
  • Guilt or embarrassment. Rarely, usually for having caused negative effects in their own life, but also in the lives of others.

In the long run, the Aggressive Style of Communication proves itself to be an ineffective way to deal with professional and personal contexts.

Read More: The Five Styles of Communication and Behavior.