The Assertive Style Of Communication | Assertiveness Basics

  • Main Style of Communication. The person considers their rights, desires, and needs and the rights, desires, and needs of others to be equally important.


  • They consider themselves equal to other people, just as worthy and understand their strengths when it comes to their skills.
  • Other people are just as important as they are.
  • They feel in control of their own lives. They do not try to control the lives of others.
  • Based on the context and their interests and skills, they comfortably switch between follower and leader roles.


  • They openly express their opinions, desires, and needs.
  • They offer feedback, both positive and constructive.
  • They are not confrontational, but if necessary, they will manage most conflicts in a way that does not allow them to escalate into violence or personal attacks. In contexts with a violent potential, they understand that the assertive methods do not provide the proper management strategy.
  • The tone of their voice is balanced, calm, and conveys confidence.
  • They maintain visual contact, in a non-confrontational manner.


  • Predominantly Assertive people primarily follow the achievement of their most significant goals.
  • They also assist others in achieving their goals.


  • They experience emotions linked to a satisfying level of physical and psychological well-being.
  • Proper management of negative emotions. They allow themselves to feel negative emotions without allowing them to overwhelm their everyday functionality.
  • Lower levels of stress, as well as lower levels for most negative emotions.
  • High tolerance to uncertainty.

The Assertive Style of Communication is considered the most efficient and the one that generates the best results for both personal and professional contexts.

Read More: The Five Styles of Communication and Behavior.