- Personalization and Blaming are Cognitive Distortions, automatic irrational thoughts.
- It refers to placing the entire responsibility onto one single source or factor, one that often had nothing or little to do with the results of a situation.
- Personalization refers to those contexts in which we see ourselves as the single source, factor, or trigger for a situation.
- Blaming describes the contexts in which we place the responsibility exclusively on others.
Examples of Personalization and Blaming
Personalization:
“He failed the exam because of me. I shouldn’t have kept him on the phone for so long yesterday.”
The responsibility for the exam results is with the person taking the exam, not someone else.
Blaming:
“You always make me sad”.
How we react emotionally in a certain situation has to do with us, not with the other person’s actions.
How To Manage Personalization/Blaming
Retrain your mind to consider the objective factors that trigger a situation or outcome. The causes of an event are rarely singular and for each context, we should consider each of them with their respective amount of significance and influence.